Guidelines for the INS
- Immediately stop all negative self-talk.
- As soon as you find yourself feeling bad, notice what is going through your mind. If your thoughts
are self-degrading, immediately stop them and replace them with one statement of truth that is positive about you.
- Stop comparing yourself to other people, because each person is
unique and no one is supposed to be another person.
- Start
to speak your honest truth at all times. State it kindly, but remember your real truth must always be spoken
no matter what other people think.
- Remember that other
people’s opinions truly have nothing to do with you. They are simply the perceptions others have in their
minds.
- There is no one on earth you ever have to prove yourself
to.
- All of the qualities that make you unique are actually going
to turn out to be your best assets as you get older. Honor what makes you unique instead of covering up who you really
are just to fit in with other people.
Rocking
the Boat
Many people in society stand
in their truth, against popular opinion, and make vastly positive, urgently needed changes in our world.
You may very well be one of those people. Fitting in is not always so comfortable. I remember how much
of my real self I used to stifle when I was a teenager and young adult. I didn’t want to show who I really
was inside, because I thought fitting in with everyone else would make me feel secure.
Guess what? That never really helped me in my life, and it never made me feel better inside. In fact,
I only felt worse. It’s like taking a blanket and placing it over a lamp that lights up a room.
Who you are, all of your unique qualities that may or may not be vastly different from your family or
your peers are the exact qualities you need to learn to accept as your strengths, as opposed to weaknesses.
Being "different" is not being "dis-likable." In fact, the more unique you are,
and the more inner confidence and courage you have to show your real self, the more you are going to feel your
real self, and that is going to make you feel appreciated—by you.
Excerpt © Copyright 2008 by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.
Re-printed with permission from the book The Ins and the Outsiders. Published by The Rose Group
(May 2008) ISBN: 0974145726. Digital Book Available at Borntoinspire.com and Kindle Edition on Amazon.Com.
